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sex on the brain

My whole sex life.. I've had an impression... this image... or knowledge that has of late been questioned in my mind. I have always thought that men were hornier and thought of sex more than women. This was hard for me to believe since I always thought of it.. a large percent of my day.. how on Earth could a man think of it more? But this is how it seemed. Every where I looked, there were horny men. End of story right?

Not so much.

Ben and I were having a conversation. I asked him if he thought about sex through out his day... like I do. He said not really... which... was hard to swallow (no pun). This cannot be right. The world is geared towards sex... there is really no where you can go.. nothing you can watch... that you won't encounter something sexual.

Even with that... this means.. people think about sex a lot right? Maybe not... maybe Ben is right.. and its all about sex selling. So this leaves me to have to rethink my world. For me to have to be able to deal with sex on the brain. I try very hard not to let it over take me... but it does. There is not a day that passes that its not on my mind and how I want it. Hell, I'd go far enough to say.... there is not a hour that passes.

So does this mean that women want/think of sex more? I mean really.... I want to know. It's not like I can walk up to men I know and ask... that does not seem appropriate. So this really leaves me to throw it out to my readers.. and hopppppppppeeee that you love me enough to give me your thoughts. Maybe even then I wont have a definite answer.. but maybe I'll be closer to something.

So that is it... that's my thoughts on it... let me have it :)


I think it all depends on the person. For instance, from a young age I've always had a very high sex drive (one I thankfully have control of *laughs). So, as a result (in my opinion the two are related) I also think about sex.. all..the..time.



LOL I totally understand that one!


In my experience with my guy friends and the women I've talked to, women definitely have the higher sex drive. That may just be because of the people I hang out with, but it covers a pretty wide segment of different backgrounds.


I think guys like to "Think" they have the higher sex drive/think about it more, but I think it comes in spurts (pun intended)...if they are horny they are all over it, but when they are busy with other things, no, not really. I think women (and certainly I do) think about sex more consistently over time....the "i'd do him" theory....we think about sex with our partners more often, how it feels, what we want, how to make it perfect, get that orgasm, be loved....I guess I just think men think of it when they are horny/want to get off, but women not only think of sex when they are horny, but they think of it consistenly throughtout their life, NOT just when they are sexually aroused....that doesn't mean we don't have periods of intense horniness, but i think overall we want it all the just isn't necessarily "intense" all the time, but more in the background until we have time to really concentrate on those feelings. I guess men are the "take it or leave it" about sex...when it's convenient for them, but women are "all the time" just not always "intense" about it.